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beka over 11 years ago | |
first off…i know this has nada to do with anything rehash related but it was really very helpful to read the responses that i got from you all. i absolutely couldn’t go without saying anything because it would have been bad/strange to not reply to her. at the same time as wanting/needing to be honest yet i truly don’t want to hurt her feelings. (i haven’t sent it to her yet. I’m mentally sitting on it to make sure i say what’s right.) %{color:green}hey gm, no, you haven’t offended me. i have to be honest though, i did think it was strange that you put me to work at the party we were invited to. and, that the first time we hung out your husband called my phone and you answered it, twice. but, i do think you are a really nice lady and ivy’s a great girl! i am really busy, everyday….on the weekends as well. i am not trying to “blow you off”. i am just legitimately very busy. and because i spend all week talking with people for work/school and stuff, i really just like to be with my family having fun, hanging out, (and of course running the dreaded errands), with certain exceptions like bday parties, on the weekend. also, you live really far out for me and the fact that we only use one car. my mom lives 30mins from me and very rarely do we go to her house. like only for her bday or a holiday. so, it’s nothing personal, just hard to coordinate. im sure we will be able to work something out at some point. warmly, b% *thoughts? (though i honestly have no intentions of hanging out and hope that after this i can politely say i have a conflict in day/time, lol) where it is hot and cold in the same season!, |
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Marie <3 over 11 years ago | |
*thoughts? (though i honestly have no intentions of hanging out and hope that after this i can politely say i have a conflict in day/time, lol) Simply because you have no intention of actually making future plans with her and she seems very persistent, I would be more honest and firm. You were passive aggressive and I have a feeling she isn’t going to just “go away”. It was either Patty or Kitty who said it best in the forest, just tell her the truth. “Yes you rubbed me the wrong way. I haven’t made plans with you partially because of that, but mostly because I like to spend the weekends with my kids and husband. I’m sorry, but at this time in my life I don’t have the time for any new friends.” That’s just my opinion though. =) Altamonte Springs, Florida |
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K about 11 years ago | |
I agree with above. She’s either not going to heed your letter and “take the hint” or she’s going to be bitter. I would just say “would love to, but life is so hectic right now that I just can’t. Trying to spend my free time as family bonding time”. A little while ago I made friends with a mom down the street. She was nice at first, then really aggressive – she always wanted to hang out (every day), wanted me to ditch my family on holidays to go “party” with her (she’s a single mom and dumps her baby on her ex who works full time, or her mom who is retired, just so she can go get drunk with guys she meets online). She would be upset if I didn’t drop everything I was doing for her. She would ask for outrageous favors from me – to go and ask random guys if they were single, to photograph her daughter for every holiday, to say mean things to her ex or to participate in schemes to upset him and make him jealous, and to help her manipulate him and her parents for money (she refused to get a job and everyone else supports her financially). Eventually it got to the point where she wanted me to do things for her all the time, all my friends hated her because they thought she was evil, and she tried to sleep with everyone’s husband (nobody’s hubby took that bait ;)). Long story short, you don’t want that bad news around. |
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beka about 11 years ago | |
you guys are awesome and your suggestions are right on! i also don’t want to be passive aggressive…boo on that. @K, that lady sounds totally wacko! caaaraaazeee where it is hot and cold in the same season!, |
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K about 11 years ago | |
how did it go? |
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beka about 11 years ago | |
oh, welllll, i started trying to respond to her yesterday but couldn’t stomach it. i haven’t heard back from her about it. i guess she will assume she did offend and won’t email me again. who knows….sometimes it is very hard for me to say little and it just felt wrong to lead her on even in the slightest way (just saying i am busy). where it is hot and cold in the same season!, |