I’ve read about what’s called “personal value”, only briefly, in the forum. I was just hoping someone could expound upon that for me because I still don’t understand it. Like I want 5 of your things for my one.. Or when people try to take 2 of your name brand items and they know full well they didn’t pay, but $20 for what they’re offering you in return. It just doesn’t seem like a fair deal to me and I wouldn’t understand why someone would consider it to be one.

i totally understand. its not so bad for me now, but when i first started that happened to me a lot. there is another forum post on this very subject. its called “just an observation by a new swapper” ..take a look

I used to be a bit of a “personal value” swapper also. I soon realized it didn’t make sense – if I’m not ready to part with it, why should I even put it up to rehash!

i know that everyone has cute summer dresses etc on their wishlists. Knowing I have an item that everyone wants makes me more picky in swapping it. It doens’t matter what it’s worth to me, it matters what others think it’s worth.

Dacula, GA

In their own minds a lot of people actually think they are being fair when they send such ridiculous swap offers. I feel like everybody has at least a touch of the “my item is worth more than yours syndrome.” I also have to thinks things through because I almost always catch myself thinking that my item is better or worth more just because it’s mine, when obviously it isn’t. Obviously though that shouldn’t stop you from turning down other people’s unfair trades. I’ve gotten a few ridiculous offers and I’ve started to respond just by blatantly saying I find them to be offensive. They always seem to be one item I’m watching and one other item I’d never want for multiple of my new, more expensive items. I suppose in general you should stick to the rule that if you’re not comfortable with the trade, don’t accept it. And if you would feel cheated by the trade you’re trying to send somebody else, don’t send it.

I have swapped a lot of items that were in great condition and received items that were faded, had fuzzies and very worn so i set my standards higher on here only based on experience with this site. I have fellow traders that i know what their items are like so i am not picky, but i wont swap a like new item that cost me $65 for a forever 21 top….brand for brand is one thing but a Higher quality brand for a lower quality brand not a fair tade maybe multiply items would equal but if i swap quality i would like quality jsut my opinion. I ended up donating a lot of rehashes i received because i wouldnt even trade them… :-3 :heart:

Brigantine, NJ

if something has a “personal value” to you that doesn’t mean that it is actually worth more than what it is worth. don’t list it and hold onto it until you can part with it. i may have a personal value of some-odd dollars for a tee shirt i bought at a concert….that doesn’t mean that anyone else would agree. i do find that some folks on here are greedy swappers…once i see them i kind of try to ignore them. and on the other note when lots of people are watching the same item of mine i do, also, tend to be pickier and try to get the most from it. on the other hand i have swapped something nice for what i thought would be something to replace it and it was junkie or mis-sized.

where it is hot and cold in the same season!,

hey christina, abt donating items received…me too! i’d feel bad pawning some of the crap ive gotten from other ppl in a trade. i just had to send a dress back to someone. it was gorgeous, but there was damage that to me made it unwearable and even tho she said is was super expensive, the damage to it made it worthless. i wouldnt have swapped to to someone. it needed to be thrown away

@ SARA- Huh you sent it back well maybe thats what i should start doing because i am receiving so many OLD, Faded and TONS OF FUZZIES on the clothing. I received this 1 swap now if the stuff were new grant you it would be maybe $45-50 but its not and its faded and old so they expect me to send them something of the same value I have no problem with that but when my stuff is in great condition and yours is old, faded and fuzzed up there is no comparability…..Sara I am always happy with our swaps and there are a few others that i will trade with but i am being super picky at this point.

Brigantine, NJ

i know that everyone has cute summer dresses etc on their wishlists. Knowing I have an item that everyone wants makes me more picky in swapping it. It doens’t matter what it’s worth to me, it matters what others think it’s worth.

This is sometimes how I see it too. I also weigh my options, depending on what all of the people are offering me. I think about what I would use more, want more, etc. whoever is willing to give me the best offer, will “win” the swap(s) in the end.

Blanco, TX