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Lovemyboys over 12 years ago | |
So I just got kinda bitched out because I will not agree to a swap. This rehashed has been wanting one of my items really bad. She has made me multiple offers but to tell the truth in my perspective they werevnot equal. I have an item that is brand new and worth a good amount. They have made me offers for used clothing and for items I am not even watching. I have looked through her list and put watches on what I like but there isbjust not enough to equal a fair trade. It is just really hurtful to get yelled at or bitched out because i keep rejecting the trades. Keep in mind I am not ” declining” I am negotiating so I can explain my side. I am at the point I don’t even want to swap with her. I have been rejected/declined with swap offers many times. You win some you lose some. But I have never been nasty to someone for declining to make a trade. Opinions please. :) Has anyone else had this happen? Am I being just too sensitive? Fort Collins, Colorado |
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⤠chanelrox ⤠over 12 years ago | |
Yes, I’ve had a few girls be very nasty and snide with me. I decline a lot of offers, and I also negotiate as well. Whichever option I choose, I ALWAYS send an email explaining why. I’ve never had anyone yell at me, but I’ve been accused of being spoiled and a few other things. It’s not our fault if we don’t see anything we’re interested in or if we don’t believe the offer is fair. I mean, I’m not going to trade a designer bag for 4 shirts from PacSun…and that’s my choise. It’s a trading site. People need to be more understanding. There’s no problem with being persistant in wanting to trade, I’ve been that way, but I have NEVER been rude to someone, or accused them of anything. That’s just not needed. Blanco, TX |
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asdfghjoana over 12 years ago | |
It also seems as though you’re not having a good time, and the point of swapping is to de-stress and have fun! If you’re not having fun, then what’s the point, you know? Ah well, that’s my two cents. I hope things work out Carson, CA |
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beka over 12 years ago | |
yeah, that’s not cool. you dont want to walk into a store and be bitched at for not buying something, so why would we want people in our special community to treat us like that. she must be new-ish, or not into the whole “neighborhood” feel of it. otherwise you wouldnt have been treated like that. actually, a while back (with girl whose name i wont mention cause everyone would be up in arms) wanted to swap for some stuff i had and i just wasnt in to anything of hers. after she got all aggrivated she pretty much told me that if i had better taste in clothes then i would find something to pick from her! anyway lenna, id tell her to bump-off and not ask anymore! where it is hot and cold in the same season!, |
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Kristin over 12 years ago Edited over 12 years ago | |
I’m sorry Lenna. That kind of behavior definitely puts a damper on everything. I had one girl a while back trying to convince me that her stuff was worth so much for than mine and then informed me that she expected me to pay her shippping too! Too much rediculous-ness! If I were you, I’d stop watching her items and ask her nicely to please stop messaging you. Jefferson, Georgia |
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Lovemyboys over 12 years ago | |
Thank you all for your support. I do truly always try to find something in the other persons rehashes to swap if they like something of mine. I want the other person to have my item(s). But sometimes there just truly is nothing! It is frustrating on my end and I know they are also disappointed but I just can’t give my things away for stuff I don’t want/need/fit. I have just never been bitched out for not agreeing to trade. :( Thanks for your support. Makes me feel better. :) Fort Collins, Colorado |
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Ë™/q/ ÊŽpuÉs over 12 years ago | |
If there is someone harassing you, let me know love, I can give her a warning, ya know, flexing those Admin privileges and such heh…but no srsly, this site is supposed to be chill and if someone is ‘bitching’ you out then let an Admin know, ok?? Fort Worth, Tx |
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User Deleted over 12 years ago | |
tsk tsk. If anyone did that to me, I would blacklist them from making trades with me. I think that would be a great thing to implement to this site, but we may never see it. |
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User Deleted over 12 years ago | |
wow, that sucks. it’s your time and money, and if you don’t want the items, then you don’t need to trade for them, especially if it’s an item that has a high value. I am starting to not trade as much, only for items i really know that i will wear, so i feel bad declining/negotiating so much, and hopefully i won’t have to put up with that. sorry you got yelled at :( |
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Lovemyboys over 12 years ago | |
Thanks ladies for your support. If It happens again i will definitely let you all know. Hopefully it is just an isolated incident. I have just never had this happen before. Majority of my experiences have been wonderful. Just to let you all know it is a newbie so it is not one of the regulars. Fort Collins, Colorado |
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Ktcoleman30 over 12 years ago | |
Poor Lenna :0( I’m sorry you had to deal with snotty people. I have a few what I call “trade stalkers” that consistently send me trade offers for random things I’m NOT watching. At first I felt sort of bad for declining them all the time, but now I just hit the decline button and don’t feel bad at all. I mean, c’mon! I’m not even watching the item and I’ve declined your last 10 requests all with responses…I’m not responding anymore. Sheesh. Then I’ll have people who basically beg me to trade with them and as much as I definitely want to change out my things, if I can’t find anything I’m interested in then I’m not just going to throw my stuff at you. I’m on the curvier side and XS and Small clothing just won’t fit me so I’m sorry if I can’t find anything but get off my back already! :-P JACKSONVILLE, FL |
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Lovemyboys over 12 years ago | |
Katie, you nailed it on the head! That is totally what I am involved with. Although in my instance the person lashed out at me. I think I will follow your advice on this one and just ignore and decline all offers. She has put a bad taste in my mouth, and truly even if she did come up with something I wanted I don’t think I want to trade with her. I just have a gut feeling it would not end well. :-P Fort Collins, Colorado |
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DiggaD over 12 years ago | |
Best to follow your gut on this one Lenna! If they are rude to you over just the offer, then most likely whatever dealings you have with them will lead to a proportionate amount of trouble. Besides, do you really want to support someone who exhibits behavior like that in any way? Used clothes aren’t worth lowering yourself like that :) Sorry you had to deal with a nutjob who obviously places an unhealthy importance on trading with you. Manchester, New Hampshire |
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ashberta over 12 years ago | |
I’d stay away from the swapper who was rude to you. I decline a lot of offers (but of course I say why), and I’ve never had someone be rude to me. Sorry that happened to you and I’d stay away! |
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mysmugcat over 12 years ago | |
I personally would find it hurtful too to experience that sort of behaviour and it’s just not necessary.Bullying and intimidation really and that’s not on. Staines, Middlesex, TW18 1DS |